There are no words when someone you know loses a baby. The best thing that you can do for them is to be there for them, to listen, to comfort, to hug and to hold. Allow them as much time as they need to grieve and be there for them every single step of the way.
Be patient. Be kind. Be understanding.
Here are some resources that you may find helpful if you or a friend/loved one are dealing with a second trimester miscarriage:
There is a forum that is very up to date where you can get some support from others who are going through or who have gone through a second trimester miscarriage.
Support and Information:
pailnetwork.ca
Women’s Stories Second Trimester Stories
Second Trimester Losses
11 Body Changes After a 2nd Trimester Miscarriage
10 Things I Never Heard of Before My Second Trimester Miscarriage
Personal Stories:
Personal story about Loss of a twin at 8 months along
How to Move on After a Miscarriage
I am a Mother of three children – an experience of infant loss
Life After Benjamin
I’m Sorry Baby – a Dad’s perspective
It is ok to talk about miscarriage. For many people, this is part of this healing process. It is important to follow their lead.
If you have a personal story that you would like to share, please feel free to share below. If you have written your story elsewhere, please feel free to leave a link in the comments below. When women share their stories, they are helping others with their healing process.
I have known a few women who have experienced this (along with their partners) and I know the significant psychological effects it can have. Hopefully, there are good supports in place to help the parents through their grief and loss.
I know of someone going through this right now (this is what gave me the idea to write this post) and unfortunately, there was not a lot of support in place for her. Thinking that she is definitely not alone in this feeling, I tried to pull together this post in order to help others in her very unfortunate position.
I have walked the walk and understand. It is a hard process to comprehend, and trying to find the answers as to why is endless. Many tears were shed.
I can only begin to imagine how difficult it must be. I am so sorry that you have experienced loss, please accept a virtual hug from me to you, Mama!
I cannot imagine the feeling the moment you know and the everlasting effects it has on a mom. Usually miscarriages are a taboo subject. Usually it happens during the first but the second is even more difficult!
Thank you for this… I have a friend who just lost a baby in the late second, early third trimester. It’s been tough for her and her family, but also for us – her friends – because we don’t know how to help her.
I am so sorry for your friend’s loss. I hope that you find some ideas for how you can support her during this difficult time.
I cannot imagine how that would make you feel, just when you think that you have got past the dangerous part of the pregnancy, so sad!
I suffered a loss in the 2nd trimester … it was a hard hard time.. I got more lectures on how I should be “over” it.. then I can count… those who’ve never suffered a loss like that, truly don’t understand it.
Until we experience anything in life, we cannot fully understand BUT we can learn how to be empathetic to our friends and loved ones. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Yes, indeed. One of the big things is people don’t tend to ‘talk’ about miscarriage due to the big notion that it hurts the parents to be, little do they know it hurts more not to talk about it and keep it all in.
This is so true!
I am glad that there are are sources for grieving Moms to access. I imagine the best sources are sympathetic family and friends. This is such a tragedy and we should not minimize it.
I remember when I lost my baby, that the Dr at the hospital stupidly said that I should be thankful that I had some children at home already. He obviously couldn’t understand my tears nor feelings!
Oh dear, that is horrible! I’m so sorry for your loss.
I never realized how many other women has experienced a miscarriage until I had one myself – suddenly I discovered I wasn’t alone! peer support really helps